Intimacy, sexuality & attraction
Intimacy
Intimate attraction is potent with opportunity to experience and know ourselves better through the reflection of another, and to break through old energy. And because we are always subtly and energetically communicating, we’re drawn to the right partner, even if only for a time.
When we’re triggered, the partner or lover we chose will have revealed our unconscious energies as the way they show up, mirrors our unresolved unconscious energy. We are geared that way on the spiritual level and Universal Law guides us to the right situation. Sometimes we may find ourselves thinking ~ ‘not this again.’
And this dear friend is the cosmic joke. Love ~ God, wants you back and has inbuilt sacred ways to ensure we always have the opportunity to enlighten ourselves over time (and again). [Universal Law link]
Outside of intimate relationship ~ you could test yourself by observing who you’re attracted to, and whether they are the kind of man or woman you would want to be involved with. If not, you could choose to give yourself more time as a single to work through the pattern reflected until you resonate with a more wholesome choice of partner.
Also dealing with unresolved patterns from previous relationships will prepare you better for the experience you’d prefer to have with a partner. Removing that ‘tripwire’ is great preparation.
Some soul connections are karmic and require us to enter a union with someone and indicate a soul contract, (which could also be for projects or friendship). The pull will be strong for both people even if there is reluctance and one or the other takes their time to step in.
These connections indicate soulmateship and a need to grow through an initiation and balance something up, or simply to create something together.
Every close relationship will offer us not only the sharing of love, but an opportunity to reclaim some part of us that may not otherwise have been revealed. Or it will circle around through a different connection.
Relationship is a potent container for growth and is the fastest way to meet oneself, evolve our consciousness, and also open more deeply to our sensuality if we choose to.
And to be clear, relationship includes family and friends. Family can be very potent medicine as sacred mirrors, and many people feel quite wounded in their family relations and more comfortable taking distance. Blood often represents our some of our deepest pain, yet they offer the opportunity to discover all of the places we are not yet in full acceptance of self.
Being perpetually in complete avoidance of relationship as a strategy to stay safe will likely create stagnation and void emotional development. Though the choice is there for us to embrace when we become aware of the subconscious agenda to protect our self.
The gift of grounding more presence into the body and potentially other higher gifts (such as psychic and healing skills), when we chooseto intentionally transform our consciousness over and over is always on offer. It is this level of commitment that opens us up to our divine purpose because we can then be of greater assistance to others. When we forge change within, we can show the way to the degree we’ve achieved this ourselves.
And rather than our higher self seeming like some lofty concept that remains perpetually out of reach ~ a committed path of growth is also the path to embodying our higher self.
Choosing to grow and evolve opens our cells up to contain more light and love, which alchemises empowerment on the inside. It also relaxes us more deeply and peacefully into our physical body and sensual nature. It becomes easier to extend more present and intimate sharing with others from there.
Stillness also becomes easier to access and the mind will experience states of no thought, much more frequently. Our relationships with others become more harmonious due to this openness and absence of defense. Not a pushover, but a wholesome empowered human being who can engage in open conversation without triggering others.
Sexuality
The variables around personal sexual empowerment can be great. Our unconscious nature will be expressed here. Our patterns show up in the way we make love, and determine our ability to be open. They also reveal the degree of inner resolve we embody.
The way in which we embrace our sexual nature and the love that we are capable of accessing and sharing with another determines the quality of our intimacy. What our sexual perceptions are presently can be attributed to personal experience, parental examples, tradition, dogma, stories we’ve heard, and any other impressions we’ve exposed ourselves to.
That’s our bank of reference ~ and unless we were raised immersed in tantric practice, there can potentially to be a chasm between our actual experience and being catapulted into the stars through present, loving and joyous lovemaking, and fully losing awareness of the self there.
This may indeed be the reason we are so drawn to sex and lovemaking ~ we’re craving reunification and communion with the Creator. The spectacular quality of sexual energy is that it enhances our ability to reach those heights. And this depends on how open we are in our energy centres, especially between the heart and sacral, and how safe we feel with our partner. Being fully present and in the body as opposed to in the mind is essential.
When our sexual energy is ignited, there is the potential of channeling it up into our heart, central core, and on through our entire body and energy field, and to be deeply nourished by it. Many people rely on a lover to activate this or work with it though it can be equally and powerfully engaged and appreciated by oneself.
It’s as natural and as primal as can be, as well as potentially absolutely illuminating, health and life enhancing, even enlightening. And somewhere deep inside we know this despite having forgotten its potential, and we are capable of accessing this if we are willing to make that important enough, open and dive into the mystery in a vulnerable and surrendered state.
Through inner work the Kundalini energy may awaken naturally and gradually and be felt as a blissful vibration throughout the body’s energetic core, and is our natural electro magnetic energy switched on. It can at times be prematurely and a little violently activated, which can cause a lot of havoc in life for the over-activated person.
Once developed it can also be beautifully ignited in stillness in the presence of another, where side-by-side, the two people’s fields connect and incidentally ignite, even without any part of the bodies touching. There is a blissful electromagnetic activation, which one or both may feel, depending on how open their channels are.
Simple magnetic energy may activate the Kundalini current.
So ~ instant gratification and orgasm focused more superficial sex will likely negate the higher qualities of sexual union. As does pornography, as it is highly unlikely there would be any heart energy involved (although possible if one truly intended that), and is usually focused only in the base levels.
In those ways, we may hold ourselves out of godly multi dimensional experiential ecstasy. Engaging sexually in this way can also be a trap that holds one in lust, obsession, addiction, and outside of experiencing transcendent, mind blowing tantric union with the universe.Then there are the ways we may be unconsciously limiting ourselves.
The lower sexual attitudes attract parasitic astral energies that feed off ALL forms of lust and addiction, (not only sexual). We may have blockages to work through due to perception and unconscious energies and memories held that can be hidden and hard to perceive. Yet in the act of lovemaking they may arise and can be released if the hearts are connected and both lovers fully present, one lover holds a sacred container for the one who is releasing. Or the wounds may even create one to shut down, and the other may feel inadequate in that event, and our lovemaking can be traumatic. Blockages can also be released in other ways.
So lovemaking can be blissfully illuminating or torturously frustrating, or plain ordinary, depending on how you engage and flow with your own breath, presence and energy and truly love yourself, your man or your woman, and that reciprocation. Surrender is also key to experiencing a higher version of energetic bliss.
Orgasm can be a flat one-dimensional experience or can be multidimensional and sublimely extended and expanded, including anywhere in between.
There’s also the option of the process of full pelvic region de-armoring. This may be undertaken where intentional healing and release can be approached with gentleness, love and patience, to open the body in greater vulnerability and surrender.
We may also go quietly to sleep on the fact that humans are sexual beings when we ourselves, have closed down.
We are generators, and if we do not generate with natural life giving prana (through breath and movement, or effective inner practice) we may over time slip into poor health, and end up with ailments that require us to face what we’ve been ignoring and resisting. Those stemming from relational / sexual issues may even manifest in the reproductive systems of women and men.
Behind every illness is usually an energetic blockage and resistance. It may be purely ours, based on traumatic memories from any lifetime, or could be in your bloodline but still fully possible for you to break thepattern and heal. It can also be both and very possible to explore the unconscious causational feelings and beliefs.
Humans are sexual beings.
In western culture our sexuality has often been confused, overt, abused, repressed, and skewed on way more levels than I would attempt to mention.
In some cultures, sex may be kept hidden and secret as though its non existent ~ and then expressed in inappropriate ways. And because it is so cloaked some of the worst behaviours can be expressed without witness or report. In some places laws have also been passed that encompass child sexual exploitation. Much more education of the right kind is needed.
This is a topic that must be brought out in the open so that true tantric principals can be taught to children, so they do not so easily become victims. Instead they’d be empowered to know their own sexual energy as a natural part of them that is theirs, and is not for sharing with adults.
Heart based sex and love and the potential for illumination can be later taught to children at the brink of puberty. The opposite in wholesomeness from what is being enacted in the school system today, and what’s available on the internet. Those too need a profound reform and rehabilitation.
Sex is for adults, and tantric energy is internal, of nature, and a natural part of us at any age.
Bliss is knowing how to expand into more bliss ~ illuminate!
Moving on. Our full potential for bliss and divine sexual union can be realised when we prioritise the deepening of our union and fearlessly yield to the mystery of the unknown.
The natural woman or man state is deliciously powerful and can easily magnetise everything we need and more with astounding grace. Our lower chakras, the sacral and base, are our very creation and manifestation centres… they govern our joy, bliss, and sexuality, our creative power, and feelings of safety in our body on the earth, and our ability to sustain ourselves in life.Now if we live in a culture that teaches us how to cultivate our tantric power, how to own and cherish the fact that our sexuality is a sacred and powerful part of being human ~ we are blessed.
Otherwise, we are often misinformed as far as the highest potentials of tantric energy is concerned and for the majority of people, it remains a mystery. They may be left to experiment, muddle around, use or abuse it, abuse others or be abused ~ and the true jewel of the presence of this within us may remain undiscovered.
Our universe is electric and so are we!
Women ~ your body is a sacred vessel capable of creation alchemy, gestating and birthing life itself ~ honour it, yourself and your divinity as one. Give yourself time to spend exactly as you need in order to nourish yourself and respect the sacredness of you. Men ~ you are capable of cherishing this about woman and valuing your role with her that brings great pleasure and liberation to you both in divine partnership ~ be nourished.
In lovership, the deepening comes with owning your sexual nature as a limitless portal to higher realms. Lovers may lay sacred claim to one another as co-explorers of those realms. Not as a possession but as a partner with whom we can feel fully safe and vulnerable with to make love, and use this sacred act to illuminate the energy, the body, mind, emotions and spirit. Going and growing deeper is possible ~ with commitment.
Remembering that at any age, our bodies need movement. And a healthy relationship with our sexual nature can also be enjoyed and cultivated. Movement, massage and blood flow nourishes our breasts and genitals as well. Movement meaning the movement of energy, breath and blood. And in case you haven’t discovered this yet, ourgenitals are as unique in appearance as our faces.
In service to each other ~ deep and sacred sexual intimacy opens the
Hearts to higher dimensions. Issues dissolve in the meeting
of God within as absolute bliss.
The ‘I’ dissolves in Holy Communion with Creator.
The ignition, sustenance and upsurge of tantric energy sweeps the energetic multidimensional field of the lovers and illuminates the heart, brain, entire body and field. Electric Tantric energy imbues the cells with prana and light, and restores radiance to us physically and energetically.
Regular illuminating lovemaking is stellar for your health,
magnetism and manifestations.
Why? Because we are accessing the super power within, basking and bathing in it, surrendering to it. It is more powerful and encompassing than any other energy so much so that what may have seemed like an issue or challenge can pale into insignificance when we merge with Creation, and issues can be dissolved there, completely. This simply means we are clearer to manifest, we are more embodied by the source and connected, the guidance is clear. We realise we are energetic beings who form our material world rather than the other way around.
Just because we are not in relationship with a partner it doesn’t mean we cannot experience the flow of our kundalini and nourish our mind, body and spirit with practices.
The body is an instrument capable of attuning to and harmonising
with the Field of Superconscious ~ when all dimensions of our
energybody sing at once.
Because ancient, collective memories do affect humanity, many can be helped when we share the wisdom and love we’ve gained by choosing to return all perceived pain to wholeness and the Source. And it is often through forgiveness this is achieved.
Consistency can be rewarding. There is nothing quite like a natural electro magnetic current ignited throughout our heart and body. Nor anything quite like our ability to be deeply intimate with another soul.
And whilst this is so attractive, as well as necessary for our growth to a point, it comes with both bliss and heart ache. The human programing is designed to awaken every part within us to rise and return to love and liberation.
Piece by piece this is able to occur at a pace that may be slightly uncomfortable. Uncomfortable enough to urge us to consider change and growth, regularly. When we resist this, it comes to visit over and again until we choose to explore, seek help out of the desire for a more uplifting experience in love and relating.
Different forms of Soul connection offer different opportunities to heal. It can be parental, sibling, lover, child. Or belonging, poverty, domination, submissiveness. Hopelessness or abandonment. There are many characteristics of trauma that manifest and call us towards enlightening ourselves, unburdening ourselves of painful repetitive patterns.
We must also remember that even though lovers can serve one another in the ways described, there will always be healing, alignment and relationships to master with the outer reality whether its with a lover or not.
There is nothing missing if it is not divine timing to have a relationship that flows beautifully with another. Where you are at in life right now is exactly where you need to be.
IlluminaChristos©2025